I’ve been Love Mentor/Dating Coach for over 4 years now and I see, hear and witness so many challenges people face.
Love is the focus for my work, yet I do not solely work only on love – it’s the basil in my marinara. It gives the sauce some great flavor…however, there is always more isn’t there? Whether it’s fear of success, money issues, shyness or weight; there is usually an undercurrent that affects the sauce. It’s too watery, too strong, clumpy or just not right.
Today I did some work with weight loss. I personally have lots of my own challenges with weight so I can really have compassion for anyone that does as well. I’ve lost and gained the same 10-20 pounds a ridiculous amount of times in my 44 years.
After listening to a podcast, I really got clarity on one of my client’s current weight struggle. It’s feeling safe. She carries the extra weight because it provides safety.
Do any of you relate to that?
I think my issue is more of a guilt/shame association, however for so many people it is because they’ve never felt safe so they eat as a way to create the outer barriers of protection.
A simple affirmation for her is “I am safe”.
That in addition to a whole shift in her approach to health and nutrition is really going to support her in shedding the extra weight she doesn’t need to protect her anymore.
I share this with those of you that need that encouragement to create your own sense of feeling safe.
Also, I have a sense that this “being safe by eating or carrying extra weight” has something to do with hiding as well. Fear of being seen in your highest potential. It’s like you’ve hidden away your true self under all those layers of fat.
Food for thought. (Healthy food of course 🙂 )
I’d love to hear your own personal struggles with weight if you are open to sharing. Remember your story can inspire or support someone else, so I encourage you all to speak up!
Weighing in with love,